Episode 342: Baby Loss and Miscarriage, a Pandemic Move, and Three Marathons Later: Ellie White on Reinvention in Midlife and Going Alcohol-Free at 47
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Ellie White's 40s did not go gently. A pandemic upended her life in London and moved her to the Sussex countryside. She fell in love with the idea of becoming a mother for the first time at 43, found out she was pregnant, and very sadly lost her son at 22 weeks. Less than a year later, she had a miscarriage. She saw a photo of herself on a hiking holiday in Switzerland and didn't recognize the woman looking back at her and knew she needed a change. She started running. She ran the London Marathon. She trained as a health coach. And somewhere in the middle of all of that, at a birthday lunch when she was 47, she ordered a mocktail instead of champagne, just to see what would happen. She's been alcohol-free since. Ellie is now a 5x certified coach specializing in wellness and alcohol-free living for women in midlife, and this conversation shows that a relationship with alcohol rarely changes in isolation. It changes when everything else is changing, when life has pushed you far enough that you finally stop and ask what you actually want. We talk about grief, midlife hormonal changes and why alcohol makes every single one of them worse, what reinvention actually looks like for the women Ellie works with, and what it meant to lose her dog Maddie six months ago while alcohol-free, and to actually be present for all of it.
IN THIS EPISODE: Losing a son at 22 weeks, then a miscarriage less than a year later, and what those losses set in motion How grief became the catalyst for a complete life overhaul, including retraining, running, and eventually eliminating alcohol The birthday lunch decision at 47 that changed her life, and why she describes it as her rebel side showing up How alcohol interacts with perimenopause hormones, progesterone, estrogen, cortisol, and sleep in ways most women don't realize What two months alcohol-free has looked like for one of Ellie's current clients The woman who went on a walk on the beach instead of a pub garden and accidentally joined a mermaid sea swimming group What it was like to lose her dog Maddie while alcohol-free, and why she's grateful she was sober to drive her to the vet that night
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