Kosher Money

The Hidden Pressure Your Kids Feel About Money

Kosher Money

Show Notes

Why do kids feel like everyone else has more?

In this thoughtful and eye-opening conversation, Rabbi Ari Schonfeld shares practical insights on parenting, money, social pressure, and how children develop their sense of self in a world filled with comparisons.

From growing up in a home with very little, to leading a yeshiva and running a summer camp, Rabbi Schonfeld offers a rare perspective on what kids actually notice about money — and what parents often underestimate.

When do children start comparing themselves to others? Why do brands, vacations, and clothing suddenly matter so much? And how can parents raise kids who feel confident and proud of their values, even when they can’t have everything their friends have?

Along the way, Rabbi Schonfeld shares powerful stories about childhood, school environments, parenting challenges, and one unforgettable moment when a teenager said something that stopped him in his tracks: “I don’t want his trips. I want him.”

This is an honest conversation about money, parenting, pressure, and what kids really want from the people raising them.

I’m grateful to have had this conversation with Rabbi Ari Schonfeld.

R’ Ari’s podcast can be found on:

Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-learning-curve-mishpacha/id1744827367

Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/5ISRvKPoVS77dZqbbDNx1e?si=RnoE0DF9RLuAbHQbYAqYWA

Here is Rabbi Aryeh Lebowitz’s phenomenal talk on betting: https://youtu.be/ahvN4L-fDQQ

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