EP11: Attitude — The Daily Choice

A few days before my father passed, he knew his time was almost up. He had spent nearly his entire life teaching people how to think, set goals, make decisions, and change the direction of their lives. And in those final days, he taught me one more thing. It was not about money. It was not about setting a bigger goal. It was about something much quieter: Intuition. In this deeply personal episode of Born to Win, I share the final lesson my father, Bob Proctor, impressed upon me before he passed away—and why I have thought about it almost every day since. My father taught me many things throughout my life. He taught me to decide what I want before I know how I will get it. He taught me that decision-making is a skill. He taught me to look for the good, practice gratitude, and forgive for my own peace of mind. But near the end of his life, he brought me back to something even more fundamental: Listen to that quiet inner voice. Trust what you know inside. In this episode, we explore:

Let’s face it. We live in a noisy world. News. Social media.Notifications. Work.Family. Bills. Responsibilities. There is always something competing for our attention. And if we are not careful, the chaos happening around us begins becoming chaos within us. In this episode of Born to Win, I share five practices I personally use to protect my peace, clear my thinking, and stay focused on what is positive and possible. These are not ideas I studied once and forgot. They are things I use in my own life. And many of them were shaped by the time I spent with my father, Bob Proctor. The first is something Dad and I used to do during our early-morning phone calls. And every time we did it, something interesting happened. We felt better. That is what happens when you deliberately place your attention on what is good. Inside this episode, we explore five ways to create greater peace: • Talk good behind people’s backs and live in gratitude• Change your social media algorithm• Use your imagination to live in the good you desire• Do what you can in this moment• Start every day with intention I also share why Cory deliberately trained her social media feed to show her things that make her smile—and how I have done the same thing with positive lessons and ideas. Your phone does not have to become a pipeline for anxiety. You can decide what you feed your mind. Another principle I explore comes from Neville and The Power of Awareness. You do not have to wait for your circumstances to improve before you experience peace. You can use your imagination to see yourself already living the good you desire. That does not mean ignoring reality. It means refusing to allow your current circumstances to dictate your consciousness. And when life begins feeling overwhelming, I come back to one very simple question: What can I do right now? Not everything. One thing. One phone call.One page.One conversation.One step. There is enormous peace in stopping the fight with the entire future and simply showing up fully for the present. Finally, I share how I begin my own mornings. Before the news. Before social media. Before other people’s agendas enter my mind. I take quiet time to think about what I want, how I want to show up, and what I can do that day to move one step closer to my goals. Because the way you start your day matters. You can begin by reacting to the world. Or you can begin with intention. The world may continue being noisy. You may not be able to control everything happening around you. But you have far more control than you think over what you allow to happen within you. Choose gratitude. Choose possibility. Choose peace. Simplified Success in 15 Minutes or Less. Quit Screwing Around: This is Your Life — now at Amazon, Audible, Walmart, Barnes & Noble and other retailers: https://www.brianproctor.com/quitscrewingaround My Father Knew the Secret: Growing Up with Bob Proctor:https://www.MyFatherKnewtheSecret.com 12 Easy Steps To Change Your Life: Stop Waiting For That BIG Thing:https://www.12easysteps.com More from Brian Proctor:https://www.brianproctor.com

Money carries more emotion than almost anything else in life. For many people, it becomes tied to self-worth, security, status, freedom, and even love. But in this episode of Born to Win, I want to look at money from a completely different perspective. This is not a lesson about budgeting. It is not about saving more. And it is not simply about earning more. It is about examining the beliefs you have accepted about money—and understanding how those beliefs may be quietly shaping your financial results. Most of us inherited ideas about money long before we ever earned our first paycheck. Maybe you heard: “Money doesn’t grow on trees.” “Rich people are greedy.” “There’s never enough.” “We’re not those kinds of people.” Hear an idea often enough and eventually it begins to feel like truth. But familiarity does not make something true. My father, Bob Proctor, taught me that money is energy—and energy must circulate. Money itself is neutral. It can be directed intelligently. It can create value. It can build businesses. It can employ people. It can support families. It can fund ideas. And when you understand how prosperity really works, you begin asking a very different question. Instead of: “How do I hold on to what I have?” You begin asking: “How can I create more value?” Inside this episode, we explore: • How childhood beliefs about money quietly shape adult results• Why money itself is neither good nor bad• What my father meant when he said money must circulate• How fear creates scarcity and constricts opportunity• The difference between stewardship and fear• Why prosperity begins internally before it appears externally• What Dad called “mental money”• How self-image can create invisible limits around income• Earl Nightingale’s formula for increasing your value• Why becoming better at what you do changes what you earn• How giving, service, and circulation are connected• Why your ability to create value is the real source of wealth One of the most important things my father taught me is that your income is not simply determined by how hard you work. It is connected to the value you bring. That changes the conversation completely. Instead of constantly asking: “How can I make more money?” Ask: “Who must I become to create more value?” Because prosperity is not simply something you accumulate. It is a way of thinking. It begins with your beliefs. It grows through service. And it expands through value. So this week, pay attention to the thoughts you have about money. Do not judge them. Just notice them. And when an old limiting belief appears, ask yourself: Is this actually true? Then take one action that increases the value you provide to someone else. Because your relationship with money begins long before money ever reaches your hands. Simplified Success in 15 Minutes or Less. Quit Screwing Around: This is Your Life — now at Amazon, Audible, Walmart, Barnes & Noble and other retailers: https://www.brianproctor.com/quitscrewingaround My Father Knew the Secret: Growing Up with Bob Proctor:https://www.MyFatherKnewtheSecret.com 12 Easy Steps To Change Your Life: Stop Waiting For That BIG Thing:https://www.12easysteps.com More from Brian Proctor:https://www.brianproctor.com

Have you ever had a goal you could not stop thinking about? Not in an unhealthy way. In a way that gave you energy. A goal that made you want to get out of bed earlier, make one more call, take one more step, and keep moving even when the evidence was not there yet. I call that a pleasant obsession. In this episode of Born to Win, I explore why becoming emotionally engaged with a meaningful goal can completely change the way you think, act, and experience your life. I share a story from my own life, when I was twenty-eight years old and building a portfolio of investment properties. I was intensely focused. I had a target. I had momentum. And people around me could feel the energy I was bringing into the room. That is what happens when you become pleasantly obsessed with something that truly matters to you. I also revisit a story my father shared in You Were Born Rich about John and Pat, a couple who wanted to own a home despite having very little evidence that it was possible. What changed their lives was not suddenly having more resources. It was making a committed decision. Once they became emotionally involved with the goal, their focus changed, their effort changed, and opportunities they had previously overlooked began becoming visible. Inside this episode, we explore: • What a “pleasant obsession” really is• Why emotional involvement with a goal changes your energy• How committed decisions create momentum• Why the transformation is often more important than the goal itself• What Roger Bannister teaches us about breaking mental barriers• How belief changes what you are willing to attempt• The story behind Jim Carrey’s famous $10 million check• Why meaningful goals make life feel more alive• A powerful $5 million exercise to uncover what you truly want• How to deliberately build a pleasant obsession of your own One of the biggest lessons I have learned is this: The goal is not really the point. Who you become while pursuing it is. There have been seasons of my own life when I lost some of that intensity. I was still moving forward. But I was not moving with the same fire. And when I recognized that, I realized I did not simply want to get it back. I needed to. Because there is something about waking up with a meaningful goal that stretches you, excites you, and demands growth from you. It makes life feel vibrant. So let me ask you: What are you pleasantly obsessed with right now? And if you cannot answer that question... Maybe it is time to ask another one: What do I really want? If money, time, and other people’s opinions were removed from the equation... What would make you come alive? Find that. Write it down. Become emotionally involved with it. Then take one step toward it today. Because this is your life. Not a rehearsal. Decide what you want — and begin. Simplified Success in 15 Minutes or Less. Quit Screwing Around: This is Your Life — now at Amazon, Audible, Walmart, Barnes & Noble and other retailers: https://www.brianproctor.com/quitscrewingaround My Father Knew the Secret: Growing Up with Bob Proctor:https://www.MyFatherKnewtheSecret.com 12 Easy Steps To Change Your Life: Stop Waiting For That BIG Thing:https://www.12easysteps.com More from Brian Proctor:https://www.brianproctor.com

What is the real reason most people never become successful? It is not a lack of education.It is not a lack of intelligence.And it is not because they do not have enough opportunity. Very often, it is indecision. In this episode of Born to Win, we explore why indecision can quietly keep you stuck for years—and why learning to make clear, committed decisions is one of the most important skills you can develop. Indecision does not usually look dramatic. It looks like waiting.Second-guessing.Asking everyone else what they think.Putting off the conversation.Delaying the move.Waiting for the perfect time. And while all of that is happening, life keeps moving. One of the biggest reasons people avoid decisions is fear of what other people will think. But this is your life. If a positive decision is not hurting anyone else, you cannot allow someone else's expectations to become the steering wheel for your future. Inside this episode, we explore: • Why indecision is one of the biggest killers of success• How worrying about other people's opinions keeps you stuck• Why you should be careful whose advice you accept• The difference between reacting to expectations and choosing your own direction• What my family's reaction to our move taught me about change• Why decision-making creates order in the mind• How procrastination and indecision feed each other• Why there is no perfect time to make an important change• How small actions build the habit of forward motion• A simple ten-minute practice to help you discover what you really want My father taught me something I have never forgotten: Never ask the opinion of someone who has not gone where you want to go. That does not mean ignoring people you love. It means understanding that every person gives advice through the limits of their own experience, beliefs, and expectations. At some point, you have to go within. You have to ask: What do I really want? Then you have to make the decision. Because the moment you stop hedging and choose a direction, something changes. Chaos begins to leave.Order enters.The first step becomes clearer. And then the next one appears. There is no perfect time. There is only now. Do not spend your life playing a supporting role in someone else's movie. This is your life. Make the decision. Simplified Success in 15 Minutes or Less. Quit Screwing Around: This is Your Life — now at Amazon, Audible, Walmart, Barnes & Noble and other retailers: https://www.brianproctor.com/quitscrewingaround My Father Knew the Secret: Growing Up with Bob Proctor:https://www.MyFatherKnewtheSecret.com 12 Easy Steps To Change Your Life: Stop Waiting For That BIG Thing:https://www.12easysteps.com More from Brian Proctor:https://www.brianproctor.com