Show Notes
In this episode we talk about difficult it is to rewire the nervous system after experiences of trauma, and after go right into pretty quickly how to go about healing despite these difficulties. During the episode, you'll learn how the nervous system works like a meaning maker and prediction model in order to optimize reality. Unfortunately, after trauma, the prediction model is optimized towards the threats that are often no longer there.
The goal then in rewiring the nervous system is to identify how the way your nervous system interprets reality is no longer serving you.
Space is also made for those who have been putting in great amounts of effort to heal and yet find the process slow and sometimes discouraging. Many wonder "how long am I going to be stuck this way, no matter how hard I try I still find myself stuck". In this video Dr. Vincent and I both give our answer to those stuck in this kind of experience.
Finally methods for healing and encouragements to take this into treatment with your provider are given at the end of the episode.
If you've read this far, first thanks for the interest. I hand-wrote this myself so it's actually really appreciated. If you can go on to like, subscribe, and share this video with one person we'd highly appreciate as it helps get our content to spread out a bit more to more people.
Anyways, hope you enjoy the epsiode and take care-- Dr. Jacob
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