Show Notes
In this week's episode, Sarah and Stef welcome Laura Khoudari, a trauma-informed personal trainer, writer, and the author of "Lifting Heavy Things." Laura shares her unique approach to strength training, which prioritizes the nervous system and emotional well-being over traditional fitness goals. Throughout the interview, Laura opens up about her personal journey from dealing with chronic pain and binge eating disorder to finding empowerment through strength training. She also discusses what it means to be a trauma-informed personal trainer and how this differs from conventional personal training methods. Listeners will gain insights into the importance of creating a safe and supportive environment for exercise, recognizing the signs of hyperarousal and hypoarousal, and the role of mindfulness in physical training. Laura offers practical tips for individuals seeking empowerment and safety through movement. The episode also explores Laura's relationship with food and body image, her recovery process, and how she finds joy and safety in cooking by breaking down food-related rules and finding balance in wellness. Finally, Laura talks about her Substack newsletter, "A Tender at the Desk and Stove," where she shares personal essays and wellness tips. She encourages listeners to find nourishment and well-being in ways that feel right for them. Whether you're looking to transform your approach to fitness or gain a deeper understanding of trauma-informed practices, this episode is packed with valuable insights and heartfelt stories. Laura Khoudari is a writer and speaker. Her work as a leader in trauma-informed weight lifting and her book, Lifting Heavy Things: Healing Trauma One Rep at Time, have been recognized across the fitness and mental health industries as well as by NPR and The New York Times. She was a runner-up in Roxane Gay's Audacious Book Club Essay Writing Contest and her personal essays have appeared in Archetype and Human Shift. Learn more about her and her work at laurakhoudari.com, on Instagram @laurakhoudari, and through her newsletter Tender at The Desk and Stove. Join our growing support community. This community is for you if you want a safe space to work through your daily struggles with food and body image. Community membership includes livestream episode recordings (online), monthly Zoom support meetings, a private Facebook group and member-only Q&A episodes. For more information go to: https://www.patreon.com/lifeafterdiets Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/lifeafterdietspodcast Email – [email protected] Connect with Stefanie Michele, ED Recovery Coach, Somatic Therapist IT Stef's Binge Recovery Course -- www.iamstefaniemichele.com/iamstefaniemichelecourse Website – www.iamstefaniemichele.com Instagram – www.instagram.com/iamstefaniemichele Connect with Sarah Dosanjh, Author & Psychotherapist Website – www.thebingeeatingtherapist.com Instagram – www.instagram.com/the_binge_eating_therapist YouTube – https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBingeEatingTherapist Sarah's book I Can't Stop Eating is available on Amazon If you find this episode helpful, you can subscribe to the Life After Diets podcast, leave us a review, and share your thoughts with us on Instagram and YouTube (@lifeafterdietspodcast). Your feedback helps us create content that matters to you.
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