471: How Understanding Your Cycle Deepens Your Relationships // Shara Jackson Harper
3 in 30 Takeaways for MomsShow Notes
I didn't learn until I was 40 years old that my body moves through four distinct phases every single month — and that each one of those phases affects my mood, my energy, my patience, and my ability to connect with the people I love. Which means that the version of me who felt so present and empathetic last Tuesday wasn't just "having a good day." And the version of me who snapped at everyone before dinner on Friday wasn't failing. Both of those women were showing up exactly on schedule — I just didn't have the language for it yet.
This episode is about what becomes possible when we finally have that language, and how empowering it is to understand our bodies well enough to show up the way we actually want to — and to have real grace for ourselves when that's harder.
This week's guest is Shara Jackson Harper, a licensed mental health therapist, hormone and cycle guide, and mother of five who helps women understand how their internal rhythms shape the way they show up for the people they love most.
In this episode, you'll learn:
✨ The golden conversation Shara had with her 15-year-old son — and the specific reason she believes the timing made all the difference
✨ Why most women are often carrying a "basket of shame" about their hard days, and what Shara says we can do with it instead
✨ The simple three-part formula Shara uses to talk to her own family about where she is in her cycle — and why her kids actually know what "lower bandwidth week" means
So here's to understanding ourselves a little better, giving ourselves a little more grace, and showing up for our people in the ways we actually want to.
For full show notes, including takeaways, click here.
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Hormone Cycle Guide: Shara has created a free handout with an overview of all four phases of the menstrual cycle plus a printable tracker to help you start noticing your own patterns. Grab it at 3in30podcast.com/cycleconnection.
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