Show Notes
What if the problem isn’t that you can’t quit drinking… but that you keep telling yourself you can’t? In this episode, I’m challenging the belief that sobriety is something other people know how to do but you somehow don’t. We’ll talk about: the difference between “I can’t” and “I haven’t yet”;why your self-talk matters more than you think;how to break down moderation and sobriety into a set of learnable skills;and how to stop using your past as evidence for your future.Because you don't need...
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