247: ENCORE: Lying, Sneaking, Cheating. What Keeps Kids From Being Honest?
Ask Lisa: Untangling Family LifeShow Notes
When your child lies about homework, screen time, or where they’ve been, it can feel like a punch to the gut. But what if lying isn’t a sign of bad character, and instead a normal part of growing up?
In this encore episode of “Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens and Teens,” psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and journalist Reena Ninan look at lying from a developmental standpoint and help parents understand what’s really going on when kids bend the truth. A request for privacy doesn’t always mean something sneaky, and your response can make all the difference in whether your child learns to be honest.
💡 YOU’LL LEARN:
- Why kids lie (and what their lies may be trying to protect)
- Ways to make truth-telling feel safe in your home
- How to model integrity and forgiveness when mistakes happen
- What it really means for kids to develop a healthy conscience
Originally released in 2021, this encore episode feels just as timely today for parents navigating honesty, trust, and growing independence.
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