Show Notes
Reparenting the inner child sounds like pop psychology until you understand how the nervous system stores what happened to you.
Dr. Nicole LePera is a holistic psychologist and New York Times bestselling author, and her return conversation goes into why insight alone rarely changes anything. She lays out the two-step process for real change and what it takes to interrupt the reactive patterns most of us live in without noticing.
Epigenetics gets a grounded, non-woo explanation here. Trauma isn't only what happened to you; it's also what your lineage carried into your body before you took your first breath.
If you've been circling the same patterns despite years of "doing the work," this one hits deep.
You'll learn:
[0:00] Introduction [7:59] Feeling your way through trauma when insight alone isn't enough [19:02] Bilateral stimulation and safety matter more than any single therapy [23:32] Epigenetics rewrites the story of who we inherited our brains from [36:18] The generational awakening happening alongside a louder kind of darkness [43:43] Nicole navigates writing publicly about her family [55:20] The shadow side of living out loud and mistaking reactivity for authenticity [1:11:14] The inner child isn't a metaphor, it's a biological reality wired into your body [1:23:01] Grief hijacks you on a random Tuesday, and the West gets it wrong
Resources Mentioned:
Exposure Therapy | Wikipedia Somatic Experiencing | Website Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) | Wikipedia MDMA-Assisted Psychotherapy | Wikipedia Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy | Wikipedia Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder | Wikipedia Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder | Wikipedia Neurofeedback | Wikipedia Read: Alcoholics Anonymous by Alcoholics Anonymous World Services | Book Read: A Horse Named Lonesome: Tales and Teachings to Reclaim Connection, Transcend Separation, and Discover the Divine Within by Luke Storey | Book
Full show notes at lukestorey.com/holistic2
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The Holistic Psychologist on Outgrowing Toxic Relationships & People Pleasing w/ Dr. Nicole LePera | Podcast
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