Show Notes
You’ve listened to the podcasts. You’ve tried to understand your partner. You work. You provide. You’re there for the kids. You handle responsibilities. You keep showing up.
Then somewhere in the middle of all of it, you realise you have absolutely no fucking idea what you do for yourself anymore.
That’s the conversation in this episode.
I’ve asked grown men, “Who are you?”, and watched them struggle to answer. Not because there’s nothing there, but because life can slowly become about what everybody else needs from you.
We’re talking about the difference between loving responsibility and losing yourself inside it, what we dismiss as the “midlife crisis”, internal versus external motivation, emotional suppression, sexual aliveness, accountability without humiliation, and what it looks like to start hearing your own voice again.
Feeling empty doesn’t automatically mean your whole life is wrong. You might just need to find yourself inside it again.
In this episode: • What happens when your identity becomes built around being needed • Why “Who am I?” can become surprisingly difficult to answer • Looking at the midlife crisis differently • Success, external validation and what actually makes you feel alive • What your emotions may be trying to tell you • Accountability without turning shame into the entire strategy • Rebuilding a relationship with your own wants, needs and voice
Hosted by Katelin Vincent | You Go Bro. If something in this episode landed, send it to a mate who might need to hear it too and don’t forget to recharge yourself.
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