TPP 501: An Intimate Conversation with Debbie & Derin About Their Co-Parenting Journey (Part 3)
Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent ChildrenShow Notes
In this special episode, I’m joined by my husband, Derin, for a candid and heartfelt reflection on our journey together—more than eight years of parenting, navigating relationship shifts, and supporting our neurodivergent child through adolescence and into early adulthood. This is a personal conversation for us, one where we open up about what this path has really looked like behind the scenes.
We talk about how our partnership has evolved over time, the challenges we’ve faced individually and together, and the ways we’ve learned to stay connected through some very intense seasons. We also share what’s helped us—communication, honesty, a willingness to grow—and how we’ve come to better understand each other while showing up for our child. This is an honest look at the complexities of parenting and partnership, and what it means to keep choosing each other along the way.
About Derin Basden
Derin Basden is a seasoned and accomplished leader with a proven track record in technology, design, and operations, gained through working with major multinational corporations, including NBCUniversal, Disney, and Microsoft. He is also the husband of Debbie Reber, the founder of Tilt Parenting, and a dedicated supporter of her work. He is enthusiastic about his role on the Tilt Team and is committed to contributing to the movement that empowers neurodivergent children to achieve their full potential. Derin leads technology and finance operations for Tilt, and ensures the smooth functioning and effective execution of Tilt’s mission.
Things you'll learn from this episode
How family life evolves through moves, global stressors, and the transition from childhood to young adulthood
Why adolescence reshapes family dynamics and invites growth for both parents and kids
How maintaining a strong partnership through communication, shared routines, and intentional connection supports the whole system
Why respecting autonomy while staying connected is essential when parenting a neurodivergent young adult
How simple rituals—like walks, humor, and honest conversations—help rebuild and sustain connection
Why self-regulation, honesty, and ongoing personal growth are key to navigating changing roles within the family
Resources mentioned
Debbie & Derin on Their Parenting Journey: Part 1 (Tilt Parenting podcast, 2017)
Debbie & Derin on Their Parenting Journey: Part 2 (Tilt Parenting podcast, 2018)
Derin Basden - LinkedIn
Minecraft Mods mentioned (Inventory Pets, Animania, Better Invisibility)
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