Define the Rules of You

So many of us have lost touch with music entirely. This week, I’m talking about your “music diet,” sharing a playlist I’ve made for you, and encouraging you to get intentional again: a morning chill-out, something powerful for the days you need fire, and a reminder to actually press play. The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

How interesting are you? This week I’m making the case against being boring and inviting you to do an “interesting inventory,” then go top it up. Make the relish, wear the lipstick, turn up to the workshop where you know no one. The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it. That’s Maya Angelou, and it’s the whole premise of my new book, Do You. This week I’m talking about your biggest job (doing you), reframing the upside of your so-called flaws, surrounding yourself with beautiful things on purpose, and the line I want you saying all week: I’m doing it my way.

If you don’t dress like everyone else, you don’t have to think like everyone else. That’s Iris Apfel, and it’s my whole philosophy this week. I’m talking about dressing like the happiest version of yourself (not the hottest), why saving your favourite things “for best” is nonsense, and my wish for you: wear something no one else likes.

A surprise trip that went gloriously sideways taught me everything about the three parts of experience - anticipation, participation, reflection. This week I'm talking about why the planning is often the best bit, a simple idea for shifting a culture that badly needs it ("that's not okay," said out loud and with love), and the Byron Katie line holding it all together: everything happens for you, not to you.