Show Notes
This episode explores the powerful concept of connecting our feelings to underlying needs and how to navigate receiving difficult messages. It’s explained that while others' words may be a stimulus, our feelings stem from how we interpret them and our own needs.
The discussion delves into the four choices we have when responding to challenging messages: hearing blame and focusing on what's wrong with the speaker, hearing blame and focusing on what's wrong with ourselves, recognizing our own feelings and needs, or identifying the speaker's feelings and needs.
Through examples and role-playing, the episode illustrates how to effectively apply these principles in personal and professional settings, ultimately fostering greater understanding and connection.
About the Host:
Nate Guadagni is an NVC based Life Coach with over 15 years of experience in coaching and group facilitation. He is also a Qigong teacher, the founder of Bo Yoga, an accessible yoga system and Balance for Life, a senior fitness program.
Misha Beverly is a co-producer of this podcast, as well as a content creator, filmmaker, and costumer. She is passionate about learning NVC and how to be the change she wishes to see in the world through better communication.
Tools discussed in this episode:
1) The 4 Choices Template
2) DOWNLOAD the NVC Template Pack here:
• The Magic Formula - 4 Step NVC Process
• List of Basic Needs We All Have
• Feelings When Your Needs Are Not Satisfied
• Feelings When Your Needs Are Satisfied
Additional Resources:
Language of Life Community - Weekly Group Classes
Apply to be a guest on the Podcast - Free NVC Coaching
Free Templates, Coaching, & Resources: BIO Language of Life Website
NVC Teaching Videos - YouTube
Books and Trainings - CNVC Official Website
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