Show Notes
Modern dating feels broken for a lot of people, but this episode is about stepping out of that mess and rebuilding your dating life in the real world instead of on apps. I talk about how dating apps commodify loneliness, create unrealistic expectations, and train you to treat people as endless, disposable options, which quietly kills both your confidence and your ability to connect.
From there, I walk through a different approach: deleting the apps, putting yourself in actual social environments (coffee shops, dog parks, hobbies, clubs), starting normal conversations without cheesy lines, and focusing on being yourself rather than performing. The goal is not to become a smooth player overnight, but to stack real-life reps, get comfortable with rejection, and give yourself a much better shot at meeting someone who genuinely likes you for who you are. --- Check out my habit tracking app: https://feelwrite.app/
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