Why good sex can make your ADHD brain spiral
Sorry, I Missed This: The Everything Guide to ADHD and Relationships with Cate OsbornShow Notes
Do you feel almost manic after really good sex — craving more, making impulsive decisions, fixating on the next time? In this episode of Reddit reactions, Cate and Jessamine tackle five real Reddit posts from ADHD women.
Digging into some seriously NSFW posts, they look at why some people with ADHD never feel spontaneous sexual attraction — and why that might be about “out of sight, out of mind.” Also…
The orgasm pressure problem: When a partner’s need for reassurance after sex gets in the way of intimacy.
The sex countdown: The anxiety loop that starts the moment sex ends (“It’s been X days”). And how scheduling intimacy (not sex specifically) can interrupt it.
Hyperfixation and libido: Does getting obsessively into a show, book, or research topic actually raise your sex drive?
Real Reddit questions, really good answers.
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