Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan

Confidence Classic: How to Get the YES You Want with Heather!

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan

Show Notes

Have you ever been told no and wondered whether you should keep pushing or walk away? I’ve learned that a no doesn’t always mean the door is closed. In this episode, I talk about the lessons from my own experiences with rejection, from receiving 14 rejections during the book proposal revision process before getting a yes on the 15th version to landing a TEDx talk after more than 100 rejections. I share how to refine your pitch, identify the right decision-makers, and communicate the value you bring so you can keep pursuing opportunities without letting setbacks define you. I also dive into why persistence must come with boundaries and why knowing when to say no is just as important as fighting for a yes. Tune in to learn how to advocate for yourself, navigate rejection, and move closer to the opportunities you want.

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

Why I don’t let one NO determine my next move.

How I got a YES from a literary agent on the 15th version of my book proposal.

How asking better questions can change the conversation.

Why you need to know who actually has the power to say yes.

How I used research and data to make my case for keeping my book in hardcover.

What more than 100 TEDx rejections taught me about changing my pitch.

Why your pitch needs to focus on the value you bring to others.

How I advocated for a bigger role after my boss initially said no.

Why you should never take no from someone who can’t give you a yes.

How to protect your boundaries when other people change the plan.

Why standing up for your commitments is part of knowing your worth.

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