Trin Told Me

Should You or Should You Not Have a Roster? (a very heated debate)

Trin Told Me

Show Notes

Have you ever wondered if having a roster actually helps your dating life... or if it's secretly making it harder to find a real connection? In this episode, KJ and I are debating the pros and cons of having a roster and whether keeping your options open is actually the move. We talk about the psychology behind the paradox of choice, share our own dating experiences, and discuss why having too many options can sometimes leave you feeling even more confused. We also get into emotional availability, self-worth, and whether people keep rosters because they're protecting their hearts or just avoiding commitment. Plus, we share our honest opinions on whether a roster helps you find the right person or keeps you from giving someone a real chance. If you've ever had a roster, been on someone's roster, or you're just trying to figure out what actually works in dating, this episode is for you. 💗 SUBMISSIONS- ⁠https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe4SUs6-mRnrR17Pr1P4rXSzKRHZzmBgK0QXQwMYwxRwO3EPg/viewform?usp=dialog⁠ SHOP MY SWIMWEAR COLLECTION- ⁠⁠https://mysecretswim.com/⁠⁠ STREAM MY SONG "UNDERCOVER-⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/track/7ylgLLPbyYy6Xe1nYFr8b0?si=780b1d9d21c14d2b⁠⁠ Kjs links TikTok - https://share.google/KAGD4h9w9GaeehmiY Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/blair.kaitlin Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/artist/your-spotify-link

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