Show Notes
Share the news of a baby brother or sister with a toddler, and it's likely to be met with enthusiasm. But at some point after the baby arrives, jealousy and resentment can get in the way, and that can manifest in all sorts of new behaviors.
Jessica Rolph welcomes Gabrielle Felman, an early childhood development specialist and clinical social worker. She shares loads of practical, real-life tips and insights for how to best prepare for and navigate this transition.
Key Takeaways: [1:40] What is the best way to prepare your toddler to be a big brother or sister? [4:55] When is the right time to talk to a toddler about the birth of a sibling? [5:46] When do you first tell your toddler that they're going to be a big brother or big sister? [7:33] What about using a baby doll to prepare? [9:32] Is there an optimal age for a child to become a sibling to a newborn? [10:28] What behavior should parents be expecting from the older child when the new baby gets added to the mix? What's typical? [15:38] Is there a way to derail the sense of rivalry or jealousy from the very beginning between siblings? [19:34] Gabrielle shares her perspective about granting space to the older sibling and taking a laid-back approach to holding, cuddling, even being excited about the baby. [20:56] What to do when the older sibling is smothering the baby sibling with love. How do you give that baby some space? [22:54] How can parents involve the toddler in caring for the newborn? [24:29] What if your toddler wants you to pick them up when you're holding the baby or feeding the baby? [25:43] What to do when your older child isn't interested in the baby at all?
Mentioned in this episode: Brought to you by Lovevery.com
Books recommended by Gabrielle: The New Small Person, Lauren Child King Baby, Kate Beaton Little Miss, Big Sis, Amy Krouse Rosenthal Snuggle the Baby, Sara Gillingham
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