AP 811: Stop Doing it All: How to Get Your Kids to Help, Without Nagging || with Sam Kelly
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If you've ever felt like you're the only one who notices what needs to be done in your home—and you're tired of carrying that invisible weight—this episode is for you. I'm sitting down with Sam Kelly, therapist-turned-coach and author of the upcoming book Notice and Do, to talk about how we can teach our kids to share the mental load without adding another complicated system to our plates. We dive into what invisible labor really looks like (the brain work and the heart work), why noticing is a learned skill just like tying shoes, and how one small daily practice can transform your household over time.
Sam's story hit me hard—she had the same light bulb moment I did, realizing that by doing it all ourselves, we're unintentionally teaching our kids that burnout is just part of being a mom. We talk about moving from martyr energy to mentor energy, letting go of perfectionism around chores, and raising kids who become cycle breakers. If you want practical, deeply validating advice that will lighten your load and change the narrative for the next generation, you won't want to miss this one.
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