Show Notes
Sometimes it's not the kids - it's the adults around them that make parenting so difficult! Today we are answering your questions about difficult in-laws, boundaries with extended family, and tricky friendships that can make even simple parenting scenarios more complicated. Tune in and learn something practical to help you navigate whatever you're facing this week. Episode Recap: Should I re-engage my family of origin? Historically, it has been painful. (5:30) I’m struggling with my sister-in-law who tries to parent my kids (8:30) We are raising our kids far from family - how do I bring this grief to God? (11:55) One of my close friend’s children is just plain destructive, how do I handle that? (16:07)
Scripture: Romans 12:18 (NIV) “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”
Discussion Questions: Generally speaking, are boundaries easy for you to create? Is there a relationship in your life that regularly makes parenting harder? What specifically is creating tension? Where do you need a clearer boundary with extended family? What keeps you from setting it? Are you carrying grief over the family relationships you wish your kids had? Have you honestly brought that disappointment to God?
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