Dads Don't Cry

Episode 16: Paddy

Dads Don't Cry

Show Notes

This week, we’re doing something different. While Dads Don’t Cry usually explores the impact of losing a child, this episode gently turns the lens the other way, asking what it means to lose a parent, especially as a young adult. Old enough to understand the weight of what’s gone… But often still young enough to feel completely unanchored without them. In this deeply personal conversation, Donna joins us to speak about her dad, Paddy. We explore the unique shape of parental loss, anticipatory grief, addiction, dementia, nursing home care, funeral arrangements, and the sudden shift of becoming “the strong one.” We talk about mental health crises, signs and symbolism, tattoos and memorials, and the long road of grief eight years on. We also gently acknowledge something that can be difficult to say out loud: losing a child and losing a parent are not the same. Both are devastating, but they shape us in different ways. And understanding those differences matters if we truly want to support one another. This is a one-off episode - something I wanted to try. And depending on the feedback, it might become something we revisit every 10/15 episodes. A space to open a different conversation about grief, identity, responsibility, and how loss shapes the kind of person you become. Grief doesn’t follow a rulebook. And it doesn’t only show up in one form. If this conversation resonates, you can reach me here on Instagram @dadsdontcrypodcast or by email at [email protected]

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