Show Notes
Why do we keep choosing emotionally unavailable partners? And why is it so hard to break unhealthy relationship patterns, even when we know better? In this episode of The Tamsen Show, dating and relationship expert Sabrina Zohar joins Tamsen Fadal to explain anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, relationship anxiety, and how childhood experiences shape the way we love, date, and connect with others.
Tamsen opens up about her own history of chasing unavailable men, including her real-life Mr. Big, and how finding a secure relationship later in life changed her understanding of love.
Sabrina, author of Why Am I Like This?, breaks down the four attachment styles, why anxious and avoidant partners get caught in painful relationship cycles, and why some of us keep choosing people who can’t give us what we need. More importantly, she explains how to recognize these patterns and start changing them.
You’ll learn:
- The four attachment styles and how they affect your relationships
- Why anxious and avoidant partners get caught in a painful push-and-pull cycle
- Why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable people
- How childhood experiences can influence your adult relationships
- The question to ask yourself when rejection or abandonment triggers you
- How to build a more secure attachment style
- What to know before dating again after divorce or heartbreak
- Why choosing to stay single can sometimes be rooted in fear
Whether you’re single, dating, married, or starting over, this conversation will help you understand the patterns you bring into relationships and how to stop repeating the ones that hurt you.
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