How to Rebuild Trust and Connection After Growing Up in Chaos with The Crappy Childhood Fairy Anna Runkle
A Really Good CryShow Notes
What if the person you’ve become is still carrying the pain of who you once were? Could the patterns you can’t seem to break—disconnection, fear, self-doubt—be echoes of an unsafe childhood? And what if healing isn’t about fixing the past, but teaching your body that it’s safe now?
In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi sits down with Anna Runkle, the creator of Crappy Childhood Fairy, for a powerful and compassionate conversation on how early emotional wounds shape the way we connect, love, and live as adults.
Anna shares her journey of growing up in chaos, learning to recognize the lasting effects of trauma, and discovering the tools to calm her dysregulated nervous system. Together, Radhi and Anna explore the deep link between childhood pain and adult disconnection—and how learning to regulate your body can transform how you experience love, safety, and belonging.
They unpack why traditional talk therapy doesn’t always reach the root of trauma, how emotional neglect can manifest as anxiety and isolation, and the small daily practices that help rebuild connection from the inside out. This isn’t just a conversation about childhood—it’s about learning to feel safe in your own body again.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
What emotional dysregulation really is—and how to recognize it in yourself How early trauma impacts the nervous system and adult relationships Why connection can feel uncomfortable after an unsafe childhood Practical tools to regulate your emotions and calm your body How writing and self-reflection can help rewire your brain for safety Why healing starts with awareness, not blame
If you’ve ever felt stuck in old patterns, distant from yourself, or unsure how to feel safe with others, this episode is your reminder: your body remembers—but it can also relearn.
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