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How does shame curdle into addiction? Ex-dealer and federal informant Sean Hemeon retraces his descent and the long climb back to sober. Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1376 What We Discuss with Sean Hemeon: Sean Hemeon was primed for addiction before he ever tried meth. Abandoned at four, taught by his church that being gay made him diseased, meth gave him the confidence and belonging shame had denied him. It didn't create the void, but filled one that was already there. Moral collapse is gradual, not sudden. A year without a sober breath is how a smart person ends up stuffing meth into a dying stranger's nose, hoping to restart his heart. Boundaries don't break all at once — they give way one rationalization at a time. The system meant to stop the harm made it worse. Agents saved in Sean's phone as 'yes' and 'no' pushed him back into dealing to gather intel. A judge charmed by his school's basketball team let him walk. The outcome had less to do with the crime than with luck. A grieving mother found Sean's number on her dead son's last phone bill and called, begging him not to hang up. He hung up. That choice broke his image of himself as a good person and left a debt he's still trying to pay. You can't undo the worst thing you've done, but you can stop running from it. 21 years sober, Sean tells the truth, stays reachable, and would fly to that mother tomorrow if she called. Accountability isn't feeling guilty, but facing the damage. And much more... And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom! Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger! This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: BetterHelp: 10% off first month: betterhelp.com/jordan K12: Learn more at k12.com/jordan Northwest Registered Agent: Get more at northwestregisteredagent.com/jordan Xero: Learn more: xero.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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On episode 517, a headless squirrel appeared at your door. Now you have news about the neighbor who put it there. Welcome to another Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1402 On This Week's Feedback Friday: Back in episode 517, you told us about the neighbor who wormed his way into the lives of the two girls in your care, then spent years harassing you — right down to a headless squirrel at your back door. Five years and countless reports later, you're back with news about the man next door. What's changed? You and your estranged wife have been "working on things" for years — through her affairs, a move-out, and a baby with another man. Now she says she isn't ready to commit, yet you still hope she'll choose you. Is it love that keeps you coming back, or are you clinging to the family you'd hoped to have? At 45, after nine years in the same niche role, you've built a respected network — executives, board members, and peers you can call to talk shop. Yet a year of job hunting, even with a career coach holding you to Jordan's own course, has gone nowhere. Is the networking advice flawed, or is something missing? Recommendation of the Week: Sleep Apnea Screening — Jordan's nudge for snorers and the chronically groggy to get tested, since this slow-acting condition goes undiagnosed in a surprising number of people, and it isn't just a weight issue. Could a simple at-home test finally explain why you wake up tired? You started listening to Feedback Friday for the drama and stayed as the show's approach to problem-solving began showing up in your own life. Now you're curious how years of guests and letters have shaped Jordan and Gabe themselves — on marriage, psychopathy, and more. What have they learned the most about? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi. And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom! Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger! This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: Chime: Open an account in two minutes: chime.com/jhs ZipRecruiter: Learn more at ziprecruiter.com/jordan Progressive Insurance: Free online quote: progressive.com Quince: Free shipping & 365-day returns: quince.com/jordan See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Facing a shortened life, Tom Rath raced to check every box — then hit 40 and asked: "What's the point?" Here's how to make your hours matter. Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1401 What We Discuss with Tom Rath: How a diagnosis at 15 — and an average lifespan of about 37 for people with his condition — sent Tom Rath racing to check every box, only to reach 40 and realize the boxes weren't his. Sometimes achievement is just existential panic wearing a suit. Why career choice is less free will than inheritance: most of us glimpse five to 10 percent of the jobs out there, and a kid whose dad hangs drywall is 136 times likelier to follow suit. Tom half-jokes that random job assignment might beat our hit rate. Why "follow your passion" is cotton candy advice — and "Let them eat cake" for anyone living paycheck to paycheck. Passion asks what you want; purpose asks who you help, and it's built daily, one rescued frazzled customer at a time, not found once a decade. How spending 80 percent of the day reacting to email, feeds, and stock tickers feels productive but builds nothing durable — and why anyone who merely processes tasks may be one AI point release away from automation. How asking "What's the point?" of every hour can reclaim your calendar. Guard at least 60 meaningful minutes a day, work in focused initiating blocks, and push email to later. No headstone brags about quarterly revenue, so spend today on what gets carved there. And much more... And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom! Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger! This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: Hostinger: 10% off: hostinger.com/jordan, code JORDAN Oats Overnight: 25% off first box + free shaker: oatsovernight.com Wayfair: Start renovating: wayfair.com SimpliSafe Home Security: 60% off: simplisafe.com/jordan See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Innocent until proven broke? On Skeptical Sunday, Jessica Wynn explains how cash bail jails half a million unconvicted Americans. Welcome to Skeptical Sunday, a special edition of The Jordan Harbinger Show where Jordan and a guest break down a topic that you may have never thought about, open things up, and debunk common misconceptions. This time around, we’re joined by writer and researcher Jessica Wynn! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1399 On This Week's Skeptical Sunday, We Discuss: How roughly 500,000 legally innocent Americans sit in jail awaiting trial on any given day — not because they're dangerous, but because cash bail sorts people by bank balance rather than by risk, and only the US and the Philippines rent out freedom via commercial bail bonds. Why bail reform became political kryptonite: crime rose during COVID just as reforms rolled out, so Utah (after five months!) and Alaska scrapped theirs before the data arrived, while a $2-billion-a-year bail bond industry lobbied hard to keep freedom behind a paywall. What happens when reform survives on paper but not in practice: judges swap unaffordable bail for no-bail holds, ankle monitors widen the net, and risk algorithms trained on biased data launder old prejudices into objective-looking scores. How pretrial detention powers the plea bargain machine — with about 95 percent of cases ending in pleas, people held before trial are four times likelier to be sentenced to jail and get sentences three times longer, even controlling for charges and history. What actually works: Washington, D.C. has run without cash bail since 1992, releasing about 90 percent of arrestees (88 percent show up for court), while simple text reminders cut missed court dates 26 percent in NYC — proof that a nudge often beats a threat. Connect with Jordan on Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube. If you have something you'd like us to tackle here on Skeptical Sunday, drop Jordan a line at [email protected] and let him know! Connect with Jessica Wynn at Instagram (and Instagram!), and subscribe to her newsletters: Between the Lines and Where the Shadows Linger! And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom! Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger! This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: Xero: Find out more: xero.com The Cybersecurity Tapes: Listen here: thecybersecuritytapes.com AT&T: Get an iPhone 17 Pro for $0: att.com/iphone or visit an AT&T store for details Progressive Insurance: Free online quote: progressive.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Since episode 1287, exhaustion has turned to regret and your church has shut you out. Can you forgive yourself, or will shame win? It's Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1398 On This Week's Feedback Friday: Months after ending a pregnancy just hours before a test confirmed your son was healthy, you're back with more of the story (from episode 1287) — the sleepless night that preceded it, a church group that quietly ghosted you, IVF on the horizon, and anger at yourself that won't let up. Where does healing even begin? Six months into dating a man 15 years your senior — everything you've ever asked for in a partner — you're happy, yet around his wildly accomplished friends, you can't shake the sense you've wandered into the wrong league. Should you study up on his world, or is the pedestal itself the problem? You ended a four-year friendship after learning he'd hidden his dating life and secretly loved you all along — convinced you were somehow "in on it." Now you want close male friends without the guesswork. How do you draw that line without sounding conceited, or presuming every guy is smitten? Recommendation of the Week: Resistance Bands — Jordan's road-warrior answer to living without dumbbells: featherweight elastic loops that turn a hotel-room mat routine into shoulder presses, squats, and crunches with real bite. Could a $10 set be the gym that fits in your carry-on? A few weeks back (on episode , you heard Jordan and Gabe counsel a man who believes he's a pedophile but has never acted on it — and you, like a vocal handful on the subreddit, felt they got it fundamentally wrong. Why give him airtime at all? Was that segment platforming, or prevention, and who has the stronger case? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi. And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom! Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger! This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: AT&T: Get an iPhone 17 Pro for $0: att.com/iphone or visit an AT&T store for details HomeServe: Find the plan that's right for you: homeserve.com Progressive Insurance: Free online quote: progressive.com AG1: Welcome kit: drinkag1.com/jordan See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.