Supporting Your Child's Mental Health | Back To School Blues
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During the Summer time everything is happy as your kids take time off from school and get to play outside in the sun and just have a lot of fun. You’re actually fairly excited to go back to school, but then there’s this dance between loving being back and trying to settle back into the routine of being back there. We want to help our children to feel inspired and have a love for learning while also not pressuring them to follow after the ambitions and expectations we set for them, but rather excel in whatever it is they want to pursue.
Times when you love it and times when you don’t 3:00 Movement and inspiration 9:00 There is so much going on for kids 15:50 Avoid overlaying your ambitions on your kids 22:30
“I think if I was to look at 2 things that I’m gonna focus on to ensure that their happiness and their success in live, in whatever they want that to be, that I’m not a hindrance to that. Number one is don’t place my expectations and ambitions on them other than them to excel, and two is just to ask them the questions.” 23:52
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