Show Notes
Most relationships start with “I love you, you’re perfect”… and quickly turn into wanting your partner to change. The real problem isn’t usually whether they want to change—it’s that change is rarely A→B; it’s a process that requires understanding barriers, reducing shame, and building support. When couples shift from criticism to curiosity and create small, doable systems together, motivation increases and change becomes sustainable.
Talking points
“Now change” cycle
Wanting vs doing
Shame kills change
Barriers before solutions
1% systems
Practice + support
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