The Ultimate Birth Partner Podcast

Episode 158 - The Four Tendencies in Birth: How Knowing Yourself Shapes Your Experience

The Ultimate Birth Partner Podcast

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The Four Tendencies in Birth: How Knowing Yourself Shapes Your Experience In this episode of The Ultimate Birth Partner Podcast, I explore how Gretchen Rubin’s Four Tendencies framework can help women, partners, and birth professionals better understand how we respond to expectations — and why that matters so much in pregnancy and birth. I share real-life examples of how each Tendency (Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, Rebel) might prepare for birth, how they may respond in the moment, and the u...

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