Show Notes
In this episode, Kate talks to Relationship & Recovery Coach Dufflyn Lammers about Love addiction and how to spot it. Dufflyn Lammers, AKA “The cool aunt who took you to Rehab and Planned Parenthood but made you tell your mom,” is the go-to relationship expert for women in recovery. Lammers is the founder of www.rockrelationshipsinrecovery.com where she offers online courses, an online community, and one-to-one coaching for women who want to succeed at sex, love and dating without resorting to tequila, Ben & Jerry’s or *69. She combines a unique background in Tantra, Attachment Repair, Intervention and Coaching to help women create optimum relational wellbeing. She spent the first 12 years of her own recovery single until at last she met her match. It was a long, hard, painful road for her. But it doesn’t have to be for you! Her mission is to be the coach she would have wished for back then. Of course once she met her match she realized the relationship was not the destination, it was the beginning of a whole new journey. Listen, it takes courage to look deeply at ourselves and allow ourselves to show up fully. And, if we want true intimacy that is what it takes. Dufflyn's Free Talk IS IT LOVE OR IS IT ADDICTION? is available this weekend, Oct. 8th and 9th and also on the 19th. You can register here: https://dufflyn.newzenler.com/webinar/is-it-love-or-is-it-addiction/register She'll be breaking down a 4-part strategy for identifying the hallmarks of process addiction.She'll reveal the single most effective way to spot problem behavior.We'll share stories of women just like you who have struggled to love and be loved. Grab a cuppa and let's chat. Kate x
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