Show Notes
Some comments linger longer than they should. A tone, a look, an offhand remark from your partner, your child, or a friend can spiral into a story in your head before you even realize it. This conversation unpacks what it really takes to not take things personally, especially in the relationships that matter most. From defensiveness and truth triggers to slowing down your reactions and separating someone else’s mood from your responsibility, we share practical mindset shifts that create more ...
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Our kids’ friendships can be complicated, and as moms, it’s hard to know when to step in and when to let them figure things out on their own. Today we’re talking with Amy Miller, an elementary school counselor who has worked with more than 500 kids, about how we can help our kids navigate friendship changes, rejection, and conflict while building the confidence to work through challenges themselves. Plus, we’re learning why friendship struggles are a normal part of growing up and how the less...
Today we’re talking about resilience and what it actually looks like to become a more resilient person, especially on the days when life feels overwhelming. After listening to a podcast about what mentally strong people do on their worst days, we pulled out the ideas that really resonated with us and shared how we’re applying them to our own lives. We’re talking about why avoiding the things that stress us out usually doesn’t make us feel better, how questioning our thoughts can help us get o...
We all have those little tasks that we say we’ll do later, but what if there were a simple way to finally get them done? In this episode, we’re breaking down the idea of a “dreadsprint,” a simple way to batch those annoying, lingering tasks and finally get them off your mental list. We’re talking about why these unfinished tasks can take up so much mental energy, how we each approach them very differently, and how you can create a system that actually works for your personality. If you’ve got...
In this episode, we’re diving into something that Abby has struggled with for most of her life: the feeling that she’s never doing enough. Whether it’s parenting, work, or her home, she shares how she can hit one goal and immediately move the bar higher, which makes it hard to actually feel proud of what she’s accomplished or be present in the moment. We talk about where this drive comes from, how it can turn into overfunctioning and burnout, and what it looks like to start letting go of the ...
We often think communication is the key to a strong marriage, but what if the real secret is friendship? In this episode, we’re talking about what it looks like to actually be friends with your spouse, how that can get lost when life gets busy and kids need more from you, and the ways we’ve each seen this play out in our own marriages. We’re also sharing some simple ways to rebuild connection that can help you find your way back to liking each other again. Key Topics Covered: How to show genu...