Show Notes
Today, we're talking about pain; more specifically Clean Pain vs. Dirty Pain: Clean pain is the sharp but necessary pain of ripping off the Band-Aid. It heals you. Dirty pain is the slow, grinding misery of avoidance. It traps you. Ex-JWs know all about dirty pain—it's what keeps people stuck in the cult, chasing after shunning family, or waiting for an apology that's never coming. So today, we're breaking it all down: 🔹 How avoiding pain makes everything worse 🔹 Why the short-term hurt is the only way to long-term freedom 🔹 And why clinging to something dead is NOT in your best interest
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