Better Loving, by Laura Ellen

Magnetise Love & Date Like the Powerful Woman You Are

Better Loving, by Laura Ellen

Show Notes

SENSUAL S-X GIVEAWAY BAYBEH! 100 episodes on #TheSexualWellnessPodcast later… Holy wow. 175.5k downloads! So many reviews, Dm’s, transformations, special guests, episodes being shared.

My. Whole. Heart.

So to celebrate, I’ma do an EPIC GIVEAWAY, and the prize is no joke; Lifetime access ticket to Sensual Sex (valued at $1,555).

To enter, follow these steps: 1: Follow my Instagram 2: Comment on the episode post on Instagram (see link below) with a reflection on what the podcast has given you, any key insights, and wins - I want to celebrate you! 3: Tag three friends in the comments of this post who you feel would benefit too. 4: Go to Apple Podcasts, rate the podcast + post your review (You can use the same reflection that you shared in the comments of the episode post. See link below).

The winner will be drawn on Tuesday 22cnd March.

I cannot wait to witness you all in your expansion in this comment thread! SS full access is one high-value prize my loves and I’m going to ensure that it goes to the person who is deeply invested in their path to sxy liberation. It’s an energy, I’ll know it when I feel it.

Oh damn, I’m excited! This round of Sensual Sx is a leap UP my honies. My heart is literally fizzing with joy to share all the new wisdom pouring through me. Relishing in all of this bliss & magic with you is my life’s dream - and it’s happening.

As for this podcast episode… It’s a BANGER!

Topics Include:

Open energy, baby, what is it & how to get it. Cultivating your sexual energy (Radiant). Meeting your love blocks with love. HAVE FUN - he might not be your husband but he can still be worth it. Zero tolerance policy (exercise your worth muscles). Put yourself out there, online and IRL. A somatic approach to dating. Writing the list - wishy-washy goals = wishy-washy results. Attachment styles in dating. Rejection is redirection, navigating disappointment with ease & grace. How to love their boundaries (which attracts someone who will respect yours). How to notice self-abandonment patterns (this will deter king energy). Flirting with the space between contact. Love your longing (lack vs abundance longing).

Enjoy. Share.

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