Show Notes
If you’ve looked in the mirror and seen nothing behind your eyes—not postpartum, not exhaustion, but the quiet disappearance of you —you're not alone. In this replay from the More for Moms conference, Monica shares a preview of a private workshop on one of motherhood's most important questions: Who are you underneath all the roles? Not because motherhood doesn't matter, but because it matters so much that you can't afford to lose yourself in it. Discover why your kids shouldn't have to carry the burden of proving your worth, what it means to live the "and equation,” and how to map your way back to a self you may not have met in years, or never known to begin with. Whether your kids are still tiny or already grown, this episode is your invitation to come back home to yourself.
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