All Behavior Is Communication
Beneath the Behavior: Supporting Neurodivergent Kids With Science, Not ShameShow Notes
Meltdowns. Refusal. Shutdowns. If you’re parenting a neurodivergent child, these moments can feel confusing, exhausting, and deeply personal. In this episode, pediatric psychologist Dr. Mark Bowers teaches one foundational reframe that can change how you see your child and how you respond in hard moments: All behavior is communication. Instead of viewing behavior as defiance, manipulation, or “bad choices,” we slow down and look at what your child’s nervous system may be trying to tell you. Y...
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