Show Notes
If you’re ready for a massive identity shift, this episode is for you.
Because you don’t become your future self by “trying harder”, you become her by deciding who she is, then moving like her until your life catches up.
In this episode, I’m teaching you the method that changed my identity, changed my life, and created “The Queen of Confidence” version of me. It’s called the Alter-SHE-go Method.
The practice that helped me go from a shy, traumatised, playing-small version of me, to building the Queen identity and everything that came with it.
We talk about:
Why identity comes before results, every time
The biggest trap people fall into, “when I have it, then I’ll be it”
The real shift, Be, Do, Have
Why this is not fake, and what to do if you feel cringe trying it
The science behind it, enclothed cognition, and why what you wear changes how you perform
How I used Alter Shigo energy to do scary things, including stepping onto big stages
The questions to build your future self, her values, standards, boundaries, style, beliefs, and energy
The real challenge, taking action as her, not just journaling about her
This is your reminder that the future version of you is not coming to save you, she’s waiting for you to meet her.
Mentioned in this episode
Watch Beyoncé talking about Sasha Fierce (Alter Ego energy): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BtTlFW9_sTI
Chapters
00:00:00 Welcome to the Alter Shego Experience 00:00:30 The Origin Story 00:01:45 Main Character Energy and Becoming Magnetic Preview 00:02:59 The Confession: From Hot Mess to Queen of Confidence 00:06:36 Why Confidence Matters 00:08:39 The Five Steps to Becoming Magnetic Framework 00:09:24 Beyoncé and Sasha Fierce: The Alter Shego Method 00:10:18 Flipping the Script 00:13:42 Forget Fake It Till You Make It: Just Make It 00:16:25 The TEDx Story: Alter Shego in Action 00:20:00 The Science Behind Dressing the Part 00:21:16 Let's Create YOUR Alter Shego 00:24:20 Don't Confuse Your Future Self With Your Present Self 00:26:09 The Challenge: Share and Embody Your Alter Shego 00:28:49 The Final Question
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Gina Zapanta is a lawyer, entrepreneur, mother of four and founder of Empowered with Gina.