Show Notes
This episode unpacks why even in the moments when you choose to delegate, you still can't stop yourself from taking the work back. Kristen shares the story of Danielle, an emergency management director who is over-functioning and why this pattern is damaging.
Some takeaways: The difference between being accountable for an outcome and personally carrying every action How family systems of over-functioning and under-functioning create this pattern Why the body feels relieved when you take over and trains the brain to repeat it What inflated responsibility is A reflection question to ask yourself before stepping in
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