Show Notes
Listening is a skill that is often overlooked, or a skill we think we don't need to learn. However, by the end of this episode you'll probably realize you aren't listening as well as you could be. With listening comes understanding, I'll talk about a couple studies that show why understanding is key to human connection. A Happier Year is now available — an illustrated calendar with 366 science-based actions. Use the code "happycastlistener" for 10% off at checkout on ahappieryear.com [01:20] Intro to listening and why it matter [06:10] SOLER listening [09:10] Don't try to listen with an intent to reply [10:19] Be okay with silence. [11:25] Multi-tasking is a myth! [12:40] Study: Feeling understood makes people happier [14:20] Study: Happier relationships when you feel understood
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