What to Do When Your Child Is Being Bullied (Without Making It Worse)
Ask Mom Parenting with Sue DonnellanShow Notes
Is ignoring bullying really a strategy, or are we just hoping the pain goes away? In this episode, Sue goes where most parenting conversations don’t: the realities of bullying, why telling kids to “just ignore it” isn’t enough, and how to prepare your child to handle cruelty with practical tools, empathy, and grounded confidence. With honest stories (including a karate-chop moment from Sue’s past) and actionable family strategies, you’ll walk away ready to make your home a true anchor when bullies show up. Whether you’re parenting a sensitive elementary schooler, a middle schooler navigating mean girl dynamics, or want to know what to do if your child is the bully, this episode is packed with wisdom and real-life approaches you won’t find in the school handbook. If you’ve ever asked yourself: “Why won’t my child tell me when they’re being bullied?” “How do I react without making it worse or causing more shame?” “What if my child is the bully? How should I respond?” “What do I actually say to help my kid handle mean behavior?” “How do I give my child the tools to survive the tween and teen friendship drama?” ...this one's for you. What You’ll Learn: Why ignoring bullying isn’t a real solution, and what to do instead The three pillars for helping your child handle bullying: family, empathy, and neutrality How to create a home culture where your child feels safe sharing what’s really happening Actionable scripts and training ideas to practice neutral, confidence-boosting responses with your child When parents should step back and let kids practice their skills, and when it’s time to step in Ways to help your child become resilient - whether they’re the target, a bystander, or sometimes the one acting out You can’t prevent every hard moment for your child, but you can give them tools, clarity, and a home base they know will always have their back. Bullying may be a reality of growing up, but with these strategies, it doesn’t have to define your child’s story, or yours! Watch the show on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@askmomparenting571 Resources: Join the Yell-free Parenting Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/yellfreeparentingforexhaustedmoms/ Read Sue's book, Secrets to Parenting Without Giving a F^ck: https://shorturl.at/lrcF2 Connect with Sue on Instagram at @AskMomParenting: https://www.instagram.com/askmomparenting/
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