
Show Notes
Summary In this episode of the Beyond the Norm podcast, host Norma O'Kelly reflects on her journey of being self-employed for the past 12 months.
She discusses the blocks she encountered and the lessons she learned along the way.
Norma explores the idea of life beyond the corporate bubble and the rules of belonging that keep us in certain systems.
She emphasises the importance of finding one's true purpose and being aligned with it.
Norma also highlights the significance of minding one's energy and being open to new possibilities.
Keywords: self-employment, corporate life, blocks, purpose, rules of belonging, energy.
Key takeaways Life beyond the corporate bubble is about exploring what exists outside of the systems we are in. Belonging and authenticity can sometimes be in conflict, but it is important to honor both. Leaving the corporate world can bring a new pace of life and a need for rest and self-care. Finding a supportive community and a coach can be invaluable in navigating the challenges of self-employment. Minding one's energy and being open to new possibilities are key to success in entrepreneurship. Belonging vs. Authenticity: Navigating the Conflict Finding Support and Guidance in a Community and a Coach
Top quotes:
"There's no growth without guilt." "The sea and laughter are a tonic for the soul." "Being useful to others is more powerful than just helping them." Chapters: 00:00 Introduction: Reflecting on the First Year of Self-Employment 03:52 Life Beyond the Corporate Bubble: Questioning the Rules of Belonging 08:57 Finding Belonging and Support in the Journey of Self-Employment 14:12 Uncovering and Overcoming Blocks: Redefining Your Identity 27:42 The Power of Energy: Minding Your Frequency 37:16 Feedback and Reflection: Essential for Growth and Learning
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