Show Notes
Betrayal cuts deep—it shakes your reality, shatters trust, and leaves wounds that don’t heal overnight. In this special episode, Eryn sits down with her own therapist, licensed professional counselor Lori Rader-Jacobs, to dig into the brutal realities of betrayal trauma, how it hijacks your mind and body, and why betrayal whether through infidelity, addiction, financial deception, or other gut-wrenching breaches of trust can leave you questioning everything. She unpacks the instinctive reactions to betrayal, how it wrecks both self-worth and self-trust, and what it takes to rebuild. Lori also shares eye-opening metaphors that expose the hidden layers of trauma, challenges common misconceptions about boundaries, and tackles the hard question: How do you know if a betrayer is truly changing? Plus, she reveals what really happens in your brain when you’re blindsided by betrayal, including the lesser-known ‘flop’ response and practical ways to regain a sense of safety. Eryn also opens up about her own experience with betrayal trauma, making this an intimate, insightful, and deeply validating conversation you won’t want to miss.
About Lori Rader-Jacobs: Lori has extensive training and experience working with couples and partners who are dealing with betrayal trauma and relational distress resulting from problematic sexual behaviors. She facilitates therapeutic disclosures and lead betrayal trauma groups. She is also passionate about working with people who encounter stress and unwanted patterns of behavior that interfere with their individual, relational and career aspirations. She is a fully trained EMDR therapist, certified Gottman Level 1 couples counselor and also works with those who consider faith to be an important part of their worldview.
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