Show Notes
The reason you feel stuck is not because you’re weak or broken, even though your brain may be telling you that. You’re stuck because you’ve gotten so good at being fine for so long that you and everyone around you don’t know anything different. Even when you can understand that, there’s often another layer underneath it: this pattern is so ingrained that you don’t even know what you want anymore. In this episode, I’m breaking down why your “no” has become so loud, and how you can start to find your way back to your “yes” and the life you actually want. Here’s what I cover:
Why your brain is already listing reasons something won’t work before your “yes” can fully form How years of deferring to everyone else can disconnect you from yourself and what you want How a part of you has learned to shut down your “yes” to protect you from disappointment Why you can’t logic your way past these patterns and what it looks like to build a relationship with them instead How learning to hear your “yes” again is a skill you can build by starting small and practicing over time
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