Show Notes
Money can be one of the hardest topics to talk about—especially with family. But avoiding these conversations can hold you back. In this episode, financial researcher Sonya Lutter, Ph.D., CFP®, LMFT, joins host Jennifer Borget to explore where attitudes toward money come from. She’ll also share how open, honest dialogue about money can build trust, reduce stress and boost financial confidence. From navigating differing money beliefs with a partner to teaching kids about spending and saving, Sonya offers tips to make these talks easier and more impactful.
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Sonya Lutter, PhD, CFP, LMFT, "The Trust Factor: Key Insights into Planner-Client Relationships," Commissioned research from Northwestern Mutual, 2024.
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