One text away from falling apart | Bianca Dye on caring for a parent with dementia | Club Sandwich
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"I can't human for two." Broadcaster Bianca Dye joins Sarah Macdonald to talk about caring solo for her 81-year-old mum, who has dementia — with no kids and no siblings to share it. Why you don't need children to be in the sandwich generation, how friends become family, the hack of choosing kind over right, and the hardest part: loving a mum who wasn't always there. Content note: includes discussion of dementia and suicidal thoughts. Support: Lifeline 13 11 14, Dementia Australia 1800 100 500.
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