Show Notes
A few weeks ago I was on a flight home from the Gold Coast, scrolling LinkedIn on the free Wi-Fi (the small joys), when I came across a post that genuinely knocked me for six. It was from a coach named Jude Fredman, and it was about the thing none of us want to hear: that the work is going to take years, it's going to be slow and boring and uncomfortable, and there is no shortcut. In this episode, I'm sharing that post and being really honest about why it hit so hard for me. I talk about starting this very podcast, the early ambition I had for it, the reality of what it's actually looked like behind the scenes (the no's, the re-records, the nights I've wanted to quit), and why regret hurts more than the hard work ever will.
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