Marketing 4 Business

Are You Listening to Reply or Listening to Understand? The Leadership Skill Every Business Owner Needs Right Now

Marketing 4 Business

Show Notes

Are you really listening to understand, or just waiting for your turn to talk? In this Marketing 4 Business episode, Scott chats with Ali McCormick, communication and leadership expert and co-founder of Discretionary Effort, about the soft skills that make the biggest difference in business. From emotional intelligence and resilience to the kind of team communication that actually drives performance, Ali brings decades of real-world experience as a speech and language therapist, positive psychologist, and leadership trainer to the conversation. Ali shares practical tools and insights you can put to work straight away, including: Why "why" is the wrong question to ask an underperforming team member – and what to ask instead The 5-to-1 feedback ratio backed by research that can transform team performance and morale How to prepare for a difficult conversation so you don't make things worse The Values in Action exercise that helps teams understand each other's strengths Why avoiding hard conversations isn't neutral – it's actively making things worse What resilience really is, whether it can be taught, and how to build it in yourself and your team The simple shift from listening to reply to listening to understand – and why it changes everything

If you're a business owner leading a team (whether that's 2 people or 20) and you want to communicate better, handle tough conversations with more confidence, and build a team that actually works well together, this episode is well worth your time. Download the Local Business AEO Playbook here – a free, step-by-step guide that shows you how to position your business to be recommended by AI. If you find our content valuable and informative, please help us reach more business owners by sharing it with a friend who might benefit. Additionally, please ensure that you're following our podcast on your preferred platform, and if you enjoyed the latest episode, consider leaving us a five-star review. Your support is highly appreciated. See below for ways to get in touch with us… Follow the Marketing 4 Business podcast on Instagram here Follow Digital Influence on Instagram here Connect with Scott on LinkedIn here Connect with Ali on LinkedIn here Have Fun & Take Action

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