
Show Notes
Have you ever wondered why it can be so hard to stay in your body during moments of intimacy? This episode explores the deep connection between your nervous system, your body, and your capacity for pleasure. Lisa West is a physical therapist, bodyworker, and yoga practitioner of over 30 years and the author of the book Follow the Feeling, A Roadmap to Emotional Freedom. She has worked with clients navigating midlife, chronic pain, and trauma and brings deep insight into sexual medicine, pelvic health, and nervous system regulation. In this episode, Jay and Lisa discuss: ► The shift from constant upward, productive energy to honoring the downward-flowing energy (apana vayu) of the body. ► Why arousal requires a baseline parasympathetic (relaxed) state and how to find the sweet spot of flow between relaxation and stimulation. ► The misconception that pain during sex or pelvic exams is normal, and how pelvic floor physical therapy can help. ► The truth about women's arousal, including the fact that only about 30% of women can orgasm from penetration alone. ► Simple, fluid movements and grounding practices—like softening the jaw to access the pelvis—that help you stay present and connected to yourself. Learn more about Lisa West ► Website: https://lisawestwellness.com ► Instagram: @LisaYogini ► Other links: Follow the Feeling on Amazon and courses on Teachable If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields Grab your free copy of The Hey, Wait Phrasebook: 12 Things to Say When You'd Normally Fawn, Freeze, or Fight - https://yourstruly.kit.com/0be0a7d69c Stay connected with Jay ► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B ► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/ Have a question for the podcast? Send it in — it may be featured in a future episode.
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