From Stuck to Started: Executive Function & ADHD Coaching to Take Action

079: Stop Beating Yourself Up for Being Inconsistent: How to Restart Without Starting Over

From Stuck to Started: Executive Function & ADHD Coaching to Take Action

Show Notes

“How can I be more consistent?” If you’ve asked yourself that question lately, you’re not alone. As an executive function and ADHD coach, I hear this all the time. But here’s the twist: today’s episode is all about why it's okay not to be 100% consistent and how redefining consistency can actually help you stick with your habits, routines, and systems more sustainably. What you’ll learn in this episode: Why being consistent all the time isn’t realistic—especially with ADHD A more flexible, ADHD-friendly definition of consistency The surprising role self-talk and perfectionism play in your consistency struggles Three mindset shifts to help you come back to habits, routines, and systems (without shame) Alternative words to use when “consistency” feels rigid or overwhelming

Whether you're trying to figure out how to be consistent with ADHD, how to be consistent with habits, or how to be consistent with routines and systems, this episode gives you permission to do it your way—messy, imperfect, and full of variety. Host: Sarah Lovell, Executive Function & ADHD Coach Connect with Sarah Lovell: Website: Executive Functioning First Instagram: @executivefunctioningfirst Apply for 1:1 Coaching: Learn more & let's schedule a free 45-minute discovery call

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