222. Why do kids react before they think?
Overpowering Emotions: Tools for Child & Teen Anxiety and ResilienceShow Notes
Many kids struggle with impulse control, and adults are often left wondering why strategies don’t stick. This episode breaks down the foundations of impulsive behaviour and why so many kids react without thinking — especially when emotions are high.
Dr. Caroline explains the building blocks kids need long before self-control can happen: emotional safety, a developing prefrontal cortex, attention regulation, and the four types of impulsivity that influence behavior. You’ll learn how urgency, acting too fast, difficulty sticking with tasks, and sensation seeking show up in everyday life.
This episode helps parents, educators, and mental health professionals finally understand the why behind big reactions — and sets the groundwork for change.
Homework Ideas
Track patterns (simple, daily). Write down: When impulsivity happened What emotion was present What urge the child felt What behaviour followed This reveals triggers and themes.
Build “urge awareness.” Ask your child: “When you feel angry, what does your body want to do first?” “When you're excited, what do you want to do right away?” This grows self-observation before action.
Watch your own impulse moments. Kids mirror adults. Choose one moment this week to pause before reacting.
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