Not For Everyone

168. Is This the Most Confusing Breakup Ever? + The Paradox of Spontaneity

Not For Everyone

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Hi boos! Today Jess and Caroline counsel a Kook University student who is looking for guidance on a recent breakup that went, possibly, too well. These fellow eighth year undergrads share the tough, and often confusing, lesson that two people can love each other deeply but still not be meant to stay together. Jess recommends a John Mayer tune about the feelings that persist after a split, while Caroline offers a hot take on guys who sing romantic ballads.

A second whatado comes from a listener who struggles with last-minute plans. This leads to a discussion about spontaneity and the distinction between preferences and needs. The value of discomfort is also mentioned. Then Caroline launches a groundbreaking scientific study about stretchy pants!

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