43. The Truth about Confidence, and Why It's Not Enough to Fix Your Struggling Teen or Older Child
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Most parents say they want a confident child — but that’s not really what you’re longing for. What you want is for your child to feel like themselves again. To walk into the room and bring light with them instead of tension. To open up instead of shutting down or clinging. To choose connection, not because they were told to — but because it feels good again. And if confidence were the answer, it would already be working.
In this episode, we talk about what’s actually underneath the shutdown, the clinginess, the disrespect, and the emotional distance — and why identity, not confidence, is the root that changes everything. You’ll learn the simple shift that helps your child remember who they are, restores warmth and closeness in your relationship, and brings their spark back — starting with you.
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