Show Notes
Do you ever wonder how your ADHD impacts your sex life?You are not alone. ADHD doesn't magically switch off when the clothes come off.
Maybe you get bored. Maybe your mind wanders. Maybe you're masking so much that even during intimacy, you're still performing instead of actually being present. Or maybe porn, dopamine and self-pleasure play a much bigger role in your life than you've ever stopped to think about.
Because ADHD doesn't magically switch off when the clothes come off.
When we get an ADHD diagnosis, it becomes the vehicle we use to unmask in every area of our lives. But what never gets spoken about is how the hell we do that when it comes to the bedroom.
As this week's guest, sex, love and relationship coach Liz Hunter, puts it: you can mask in life, you can put on a performance in life, but in the bedroom, all of it gets exposed.
So let's find out, shall we? Let's untangle all things ADHD & sex (without going red): 🔥 Porn: what role does dopamine play, and when does porn become more than just entertainment? 🎭 Masking in the bedroom: are you actually being yourself during sex, or are you still trying to perform, please and meet someone else's expectations? 🥱 Bored in the bedroom: what happens when novelty wears off? Can an ADHD brain struggle with routine, even when it comes to sex and intimacy? 🧠 The ADHD brain and desire: why distraction, stimulation and the constant search for dopamine can all show up in the bedroom ❤️ Self-pleasure: what can exploring your own body teach you about what you actually want, need and enjoy? 💬 Communication and shame: how do you start talking about sex when you've spent years feeling like there's something wrong with the way you experience it?
Why listen?
Sex is supposed to be one of those things we're all comfortable talking about.
Except… we're not.
Add ADHD into the mix and suddenly there can be boredom, distraction, masking, shame, dopamine-seeking and a whole lot of questions that nobody seems to be asking out loud.
So we're asking them.
Whether you're single, dating, in a long-term relationship, questioning your relationship with porn, struggling to stay present during intimacy or simply curious about how ADHD might be showing up in your sex life, then this episode is for you.
No judgement. No shame. Just an honest conversation about sex, ADHD, pleasure and everything that comes with it.
Because understanding your ADHD shouldn't stop at work, relationships and organisation.
Sometimes, it needs to follow you all the way into the bedroom.
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